This One's Straight from the Heart

Last week I posted that I was in the middle of writing an epic essay that would explain the mystery of Life the Universe and Everything (apologies to Doug Adams.) I spent four days writing, rewriting, editing and writing some more and when I was done? I hit delete. It was all crap.
I realized that I spent all that time trying to write a clear treatise complete with elegant arguments for my theories, but in the end I realized that what I want; rather what I need to say can actually be summed up in a few pointed paragraphs.
What follows is not elegant and definitely won’t be chiseled onto stone tablets, but these words come straight from my heart. They are my honest and impassioned plea for a saner world and way to live in it:
Recently I’ve read several books and essays that advocate that people should live their lives as if it were a game. They suggest we think of ourselves as if we were in a giant computer simulation where we have to solve problems and overcome obstacles to gain points and advance to the next level. They also suggest that there is no player manual and we have to discover the “real” rules of the game as we go along. I put “real” in quotation marks, because one of the fundamental concepts of this ‘theory’ is that what we accept as rules are really limitations we impose on ourselves.
Now, I’m willing to concede that there are, as far as we know, immutable laws of nature. Every particle of matter in the universe exerts the same force of attraction on every other particle of matter. Gravity as far as we’ve been able to determine, is immutable. Sometime in the future we may develop technology that allows us to overcome this force, but for now, if you drop it, it will fall.
Other than that, all bets are off. If you say you can’t do something you are dead wrong. You may choose not to do something or to not act in a particular way, but you need to realize that there is nothing but yourself, your mind, morals, fear of arrest, fear of failure or fear of whatever, keeping you from that act.
Let me restate that; aside from violating the basic laws of physics, there is absolutely nothing that you can conceive that you cannot achieve. Nothing!
From now on, for the rest of your life, realize that every time you use the words, ‘I can’t’ you are lying to yourself. Start being honest and replace ‘can’t’ with ‘won’t.’ “I won’t do that” is a perfectly acceptable choice and statement…at least it’s honest.
Every time you use the words, ‘I can’t’ you are limiting your possibilities and squandering the most valuable asset you have; your time in the Game.
You only have so much time inside the Game. How much time you have is a mystery. You need to realize that the only thing you actually own in the entire universe is the breath you are taking right now. The breath you just exhaled is in the past and no one can ever get it back. You have absolutely no guarantee that you’ll even get the chance to take that next breath. The only thing you have is this breath and this moment right now. The question then becomes, ‘what are you going to do with this moment?’
I get so tired of hearing people complain that their life is a mess, the world is a mess and life has been so unfair to them.
Let me clue you in on the Grand Secret: The world and your life, right now this second, are exactly the way they should be and couldn’t possibly be any other way. You and your life are the culmination of all the choices you’ve ever made. The world is the way it is because; it is the culmination of all the choices every single human being who has ever lived has made.
Don’t like the world? Don’t like your life? Fantastic; change them! Starting right now, start making different choices.
Another secret: It doesn’t really matter what those choices are as long as you make the conscious decision to stop being a spectator in the Game and get your ass out on the field and start playing.
They have a saying in Texas, “If all you ever do is all you’ve ever done, then all you’re ever get is all you’ve ever got.” Truer words were never spoken. If you don’t make a fundamental change to your thinking and your choices, you have doomed yourself to continue to repeat your present existence for the rest of your life.
For some of you that’s not a bad thing; if you’re happy with your life and don’t particularly want it to be different, then great for you. Carry on!
For the rest of us, let’s follow the words of Gandhi and “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Get out there and know that you’re going to make mistakes; you’re going to get blindsided; you’re going to get a bloody nose or a couple of split lips. But, also know that you’ll also make some awesome decisions and realize fantastic accomplishments you didn’t ever know were possible. If you play the Game with all your heart, you’ll also give as good as you get. Remember, at least pain reminds us that we’re alive.
I look around me and I see an entire world playing the Game. But the vast majority isn’t playing to win, but rather they’re playing not to lose. I don’t know about you, but I would rather follow the words of the fictional Alexander Luthor, “I would rather fail spectacularly than succeed minimally.”
Here’s the last secret: No one is going to get out of the Game alive. So what are you saving your points for?
Has any of what I’ve said made any sense to you at all? Have any of you said to yourself, ‘Crikey, that bloke’s right; I need to get in the Game?’
More importantly, have I pissed any of you off? GOOD! I hope you get good and mad and get off your ass and then get out there and try to prove me wrong. Let me know how that works for you.
Just for God’s sake, whatever you do, don’t say ‘I can’t.’
Here’s hoping you have an intentionally great and life changing day.

By | 2015-03-02T03:00:29-05:00 March 2nd, 2015|Counseling, Counseling/Therapy, Honesty, Integrity, Principles|0 Comments

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